Have you ever noticed how questions presume an answer in the very question? "Do you love me?" is filled with doubt or the question would not even be considered and asked. This type of question in A Course In Miracles is called a "double question." In psychology it is called a double bind. If the person says "Yes," the questioner thinks, even if the questioner does not say it, "No you don't." If the person says "No," the person is blamed for withholding their love from the questioner. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, and a hell is created for both parties.
And so it goes...........
To be caught in the binaries of these kinds of questions is a hell of our own making for we are being forced to chose among illusions. Human beings have separated themselves from the Oneness and walk the path of the ego. The path of the ego is the path to hell.
The path of the spirit offers us another reality. The path of the spirit recognizes and acknowledges the binaries of the path of the ego and simply chose not to play the game. The path of the spirit is to rest in the peace of the Oneness and not chose between separate illusions. This rest comes from forgiveness. It says in answer to the question, "Do you love me?", "Things are okay. Things will be all right. Let us just sit together and relax."
Insecurity is a form of fear which must be named to be managed, and well managed,
peace can arrive.
