Sunday, March 17, 2019
Today's lesson, number 68 in A Course In Miracles, is "Love holds no grievances." It is written in this lesson in ACIM, "You who were created by love like itself can hold no grievances and know your Self. To hold a grievance is to forget who you are. To hold a grievance is to see yourself as a body. To hold a grievance is to let the ego rule you mind and condemn the body to death. Perhpas you do not yet fully realize just what holding grievances does to the mind. It seems to split you off from your Source and make you unlike Him."
Grievances corrupt and are toxic to the person holding them. Playing the victim is deadly to spiritual health.
Holding grievances is the opposite of what Universalism teaches which is Unconditional Love.
The metaphysical philosophy of A Course In Miracles teaches that the world of the ego is not real but is based on illusions. Grievances come from our belief in special relationships which are based on the principles of "give to get" and "one or the other." These principles of special relationships violate the seven principles which Unitarian Universalists covenant together to affirm and promote.
When UUs hold grievances something has gone wrong with the covenant. There has been a breach in the rapport. The person holding the grievance has made a mistake in misperceiving his/her brother and sister, and no longer holds precious the person's inherent worth and dignity, the first principle of UU.
Forgiveness is the path to letting go of grievances. Forgiveness in this context is the taking the person where they're at and rising above any sense of victimhood knowing that we all are God's creatures.
Forgiveness does not mean not setting limits or accepting abuse. It means dealing with dysfunctional and toxic situations with love recognizing that attacks by others are calls for love.
We have expressions like "water off a duck's back," "rolling with the punch," "developing thicker skin," etc. Holding no grievances means living above it all, not in a dismissive, avoidant, or condescending way, but rather acknowledging the attack and not taking it personally, refusing to see oneself as a victim.
"Holding no grievances" is a decision we make, and a position we take based on a new understanding of who we are and the place we have in the interdependent web of God's existence.