My ex-wife, Angela, and I had 9 children. Our two youngest, Ryan, and Brigid were killed in a drunk driving crash in 1993. Ryan was 8 and Brigid was 5. Today, April 11, is Brigid's birthday. She would be 23 today.
Brigid was an Irish dancer and a wonderful sister to her older brothers and sisters. Unlike her older brother Ryan she loved physical affection and when I came home she would run and jump into my arms squealing, "DADDY!!!!" Her enthusiasm often startled me and filled me with a joy which I rarely feel. At 64 I don't have that any more and I remember it with gratitude and tenderness.
I wonder what she would be like as a 23 year old woman. I am sure like her older sisters she would be very special, loving, kind, smart, and a contribution to our human community on this planet.
As Ryan said to me in a dream, "Dad, intimacy is a matter of the heart!" and indeed it is.