"Tension management is a huge problem for UUs. One person told me she left her UU congregation because everyone was "too nice." "Nice" people are stealthily dangerous."
David Markham in Book Notes - The Gadfly Papers by Todd Eklof
Editor's note - Much of what goes on in Unitarian Universalism to manage tension is what psychologists call "relational aggression." The question is who's in and who's out and who is making those decisions? Rev. Dr. Todd Elkof was/is victimized by relational aggression perpetrated by people in the UUA and the UUMA.