Ask Alexa - Why do people hate so much and want people who are different from them to go back to where they came from?

Alexa: Is it true that people hate themselves and then project that hate outward and scapegoat others in their own defense?

Yes. A person can't hate others unless deep down there is something that they hate even more in themselves.

Alexa: Did you hear what the woman said when she met the person she had been emailing on Match.com for the first time in person and they shook hands and he said, "Your hands are so cold?"

I heard she said, "Of course, they're cold, I've been out of circulation for a while."

Alexa: My friend is complaining all the time and I try to cheer him up and he only complains all the more. What should I do?

Quit trying to cheer him up. He thinks you are one more person who doesn't understand how upset he is. Instead, not only agree with him that things are terrible but wondering how he is managing in such terrible conditions. You might say you couldn't do half as well and would have been done completely in by what he is dealing with. He might then try to cheer you up.