Sunday, July 26, 2020

Explaining things to kids - You can't play here. Only white people.

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You can’t play here. Only white people.

The kids were kindergarten age and on the playground in the park. The six year old African-American girl went up to the spinning merry- go-round with about four other kids on it and as she started to get on, one of the white girls already on the merry-go-round hollered, “Only white people!”

As I witnessed this, my stomach fell. I started to get anxious and perspire. My heart rate increased, my breathing became shallow, my muscles tensed, I became light headed. At first, I didn’t believe what I had heard, but then as I saw the African- American girl back off, head down, turn and run across the playground to what looked like her mother, I wondered, what if anything I should do.

I am a white guy. What would it look like if I tried to stop the merry-go-round and talk to these little girls? Maybe I should talk to their parents. Who did these kids belong to on this playground? I am here with my 8 year old son who is on the slide. What just happened doesn’t have anything to do with me, or does it?

This could be what is called a “teachable moment” but what to teach and how to teach it?

Having given it some thought,  I walked over the merry-go-round” and said to the little white girl, “You shouldn't have said that. It wasn’t nice.” As he circled around, she looked at me startled that I would be talking to her. Her little playmates looked somewhat scared too.”

As the merry-go-round slowed down, I said,”What you said and did to that girl is racist and being racist is bad. You should go and apologize to her for not letting her play because of the color of her skin.”

The girl started to cry and the other kids looked very concerned. I just stood there.

The little girls all jumped off the merry-go-round and ran across the playground in different directions. I tried to see where the one little girl who had said the racist words went but lost sight of her.

Will she tell her parents what happened? Will she and the other little girls ever talk together about what happened? Will someone complain to the police about the pervert in the park that was harassing little white girls on the playground?

I never heard anything further about the incident. I don’t know if my actions that day made a difference to anyone. I often wondered whether my actions did anything to make the world a better place. I also wonder if the possible benefit of helping to make the world a more just place was worth the risk?

Jesus said that the way to the kingdom is “to love as I have loved.” Somebody, one day, asked Mother Teresa, “Who should I love?” Mother Teresa, “Whomever life puts in your path.”

For some reason or not, life put these kids in my path that day and led me to witness racism in young children. What is a loving person to do? We have many choices. I don’t know if I did the best thing, but looking back now, I am glad that I did it.

1 comment:

  1. I wonder if this guy was a member of any religious denomination? Does it make a difference if he was or wasn't?

    Children at this age are learning the difference between right and wrong. They are growing up in a society where racism is not only tolerated but supported from the President of the United States on down.

    The President won the election promising to build walls to keep brown people out of the country and make America great again. Is it any wonder that a little white girl on a playground in a park would want to exclude a little black girl from the merry-go-round? I wonder if her parents are Republican Trumpists?

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