Lesson #31
I am not the victim of the world I see.
People learn as children that there are benefits to playing the victim. It’s an effective way to manipulate others, obtain attention, sympathy, and other forms of assistance.
Sometimes people really are victims and sometimes they only play one because they like the drama and ego stroking that it engenders. To play the victim is to play the role of the drama queen or drama king and while there are short terms benefits, using this game in our interpersonal life, creates a hell for ourselves and others.
Forgiveness is the willingness to give up making other people and circumstances responsible for our unhappiness. In other words, forgiveness means giving up the victim role. We decide we no longer want to be victims. We realize that we are the children of God with inherent worth and dignity as the first principle of Unitarian Universalism affirms and promotes.
We are asked today to take 2-3 minutes in the morning and again in the evening and do a review of external and internal events and say to ourselves, “I am not the victim of the world I see.” It is suggested to also be aware of this orientation and repeat the idea several times throughout the day especially when we are annoyed, our feelings are hurt, we are anxious, resentful, and angry.
Unitarian Universalists covenant together to affirm and promote a free and responsible search for truth and meaning, and we decide in applying today’s lesson. that truth and meaning is not to be found in victimhood.
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