The decision is ours about where we are coming from.

You can speak from the spirit or from the ego, as you choose. If you speak from spirit you have chosen to “Be still and know that I am God.” These words are inspired because they reflect knowledge. If you speak from the ego you are disclaiming knowledge instead of affirming it, and are thus dis-spiriting yourself. Do not embark on useless journeys, because they are indeed in vain. The ego may desire them, but spirit cannot embark on them because it is forever unwilling to depart from its Foundation. T-4.in.2:1-6

A Course in Miracles . Foundation for Inner Peace. Kindle Edition. 

Once we are aware that we have a choice, the decision is always ours whether to speak from the spirit or from the ego. Another way of thinking about this is whether we choose to speak from unconditional love or conditional love. The decision is ours a hundred times per day.

In Alcoholics Anonymous it is suggested, in step eleven, that we improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation and we might add mindfulness.

In Unitarian Universalism we join together to affirm and promote the inherent worth and dignity of every person which springs from spirit and not from ego.

Today, it is suggested that we ask when we have to make a decision “What would Love have me do?”