Lesson #6 - I am upset because I see something that is not there.
Projection is the name of the game and is the mechanism of such things as implicit bias, confirmation bias, the Dunning-Kruger effect, along with rumination, “stinkin thinkin,” and all the other imaginative thinking that makes our lives hell such as racism, xenophobia, misogyny, and prejudices of all types..
As Unitarian Universalists we covenant together to affirm and promote the inherent worth and dignity of every person but you would never know it to see how we treat each other let alone what we think about each other.
Our fears fuel our anger, resentment, recriminations, grievances, and attacks.
Stop yourself. Breath. Step back. Step down. Gets things in perspective because you are probably seeing things that aren’t there but that you are afraid of.