In Alcoholic Anonymous, it is suggested in step three that we turn our willfulness over to the will of God. It is the will of God that we not suffer. In turning our willfulness over to the will of God, suffering ceases because it is no longer part of me.
In Unitarian Universalism, we covenant together to affirm and promote the inherent worth and dignity of every person and when we identify with this inherent worth and dignity we give up suffering. Suffering is no longer part of who I understand myself and others to be.
Today, I will reflect on the idea that suffering is a choice. Suffering is of the ego. The ego enjoys pity parties. In my soul I am free and suffering is seen as not a part of who I truly am.