What drives evolution?

Mary Pipher, in the ninth chapter of her book, The Green Boat, goes deep when she writes on page 188, “One of the most healing practices in terms of coping with the Great Acceleration is to connect with deep time, which I define as the time since the world began to the time when the world will end.” The Jesuit paleontologist, Teilhard de Chardin, describes this evolutionary trajectory as “from alpha to omega” the first and last letters of the Greek alphabet.

When we as Unitarian Universalists reflect on our seventh principle, “respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we a part” we might well consider not only breadth of that web in all its rich diversity, but also its depth, how it has historically developed and evolved, and also its future complexity which we cannot even begin to comprehend or understand except in science fiction and reading the speculations of our scientists as they try to understand and predict the evolutionary patterns that could develop and emerge.

Pipher writes a little further into the text:

“Recently, my friend Jeremy and I were weeding my garden, and he asked me what I thought drove evolution. I realized as I pondered this question that even though I had a degree in anthropology, I had never seriously considered it before. Obviously I could explain the scientific facts of evolution, but Jeremy was asking me why evolution occurred. He might as well have asked what motivates God.” p.189

Pipher, as she ponders Jeremy’s question, has to admit that she doesn’t know the answer, has no clue, but does say that the answer lies in the arena of what she calls “moral imagination.” She goes on to write that as far as her moral imagination goes, “I think the goal of all living beings is to fully realize their incipient gifts and to grow into more complete, differentiated, and integrated beings.” p. 189 Okay, well, that answer is as good as any I would guess and probably better than most. I would say that the purpose of Life is for all living things to actualize their potential, and could that potential involve mutation into something else which then has a new potential? That seems to be how evolution and natural selection works in its most basic formulation.

When we consider all this, the breadth of Life, and the depth of Life, we are usually awestruck by its wondrous magnitude and our seemingly small insignificance in the whole big picture. Pipher writes, god bless her, “One of the wonderful benefits of realizing one’s smallness in the context of an immeasurable universe is that, contrary to logic, this experience does not make people feel powerless and insignificant. Rather, it allows us to feel safe, connected, and comforted.” p190

Laying on your back in a grassy place and looking up at the cloudless night sky with all the stars, planets, and maybe moon is enough to provide a transcendent sense of bliss and wonder until the moisture vapor from a jet plane at 35,000 feet jars you out of the appreciation of the majesty of the heavens.

And yet, even in our modern space age, most of us are not so easily jaded that we still don’t have some small smidgen of wonder, and awe, and reverence, and mystery with our incarnated consciousness in this weary, pedestrian, mercenary hell which we humans have created in this entire splendor. As Unitarian Universalists who covenant together to affirm and promote our seven divine and inspired principles, we more than any other people on this planet Earth, should appreciate and be grateful for the experience of what we have here and stay vigilant and diligent in not only respecting it, but protecting it, and cooperating with the Spirit of Life in its continued evolution and development.

How can I facilitate your spiritual growth?

There are a lot of people from whom I have learned about spiritual development, and perhaps one of the most helpful has been James W. Fowler who has written books, now classics, on the subject, entitled, Stages of Faith: The Psychology of Human Development and The Quest For Meaning, followed up by Faithful Change: The Personal and Public Challenges of Postmodern Life.  If we are to seriously apply the third principle of Unitarian Universalism, “acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations”, it is important that we have some idea, some model, some frame of reference by which to understand what “spiritual growth” entails. Fowler’s model and analysis is very helpful.

In his book, Faithful Change, Fowler writes about the importance of shame. “Spiritually, shame is related to the deepest places of truth in our souls.” p.92 Polonius says in Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet, “above all else, to thine own self be true.” What happens when we are not true to ourselves? We harbor a deep sense of shame which most often we are unaware of until someone asks us our deepest, darkest secret that we have never told anyone and we shrivel, embarrassed, frightened, defensive.

Most religious traditions tell us that we should live in an open hearted way loving everyone, and Unitarian Universalist minister, Galen Guengerich, teaches that the ethical imperative of Unitarian Universalism could be gratitude. The problem is that shameful people cannot be genuinely grateful. They are too distrusting, too insecure, feeling too inferior, and they are, at least to some extent, close hearted, and close hearted people are not grateful people except in disingenuous, sycophantic ways. A person can’t give what he or she doesn’t have; can’t share what they don’t possess. Gratitude cannot be manufactured except in pretentious, artificial ways unless a person’s underlying sense of inadequacy, defectiveness, inferiority is resolved and healed first.

Some very successful and ambitious, intelligent, charming people are full of shame because they are driven to prove something to someone even if it is to themselves. And if you ask such people what makes them tick, what drives them to excel, they usually can’t really tell you, but at a deep level it is a fear of inadequacy and defectiveness. With such people, their successes, their achievements are never quite good enough. There is always a need for something more, something better, something more perfect. Perfectionist people who are driven are not grateful people because for them, there is always something missing; something that will finally fill up what John Bradshaw calls “the hole in the soul.”

Some people mistakenly perceive these shame based feelings, thoughts, and behaviors as a problem in self esteem and self worth and while these feelings can be part of the picture, artificially trying to enhance someone’s self esteem with congratulatory interactions usually don’t help with the person’s underlying sense of toxic shame. What does help? Coming to understand that every person has inherent worth and dignity, and at one’s core, one is already perfect and loved by his or her Creator. The opposite of shame is not self esteem and self worth, but wholeness, okayness.

Back in the 70s, with Eric Berne’s development of Transactional Analysis, there was a description of four basic life positions: the first, I’m not okay but you’re okay is the depressive position; the second, I’m okay but you’re not okay is the paranoid position; the third, I’m not okay and you’re not okay is the position of despair, psychosis, and suicide; the fourth, I’m okay and you’re okay is the mentally healthy position. Elizabeth Kubler- Ross, the psychiatrist who mapped out the grieving process, taught that there was a fifth position which is I’m not okay, and you’re not okay, but that’s okay. Helping people get to this fifth position is the work of psychotherapy and religion.

People come to Unitarian Universalism from other religions or paths in life in which they felt abused, confused, refused, and failures. They are looking not only for a place where they can be their inadequate and defective selves, but where they can be accepted in their defectiveness, and be healed, and helped to be made whole.

The question from this perspective is how can Unitarian Univeralism revive, and rekindle a demoralized spirit? Is what UU has to offer inspirational? There are some UU preachers I listen to in podcasts who almost always are inspirational because they are not afraid of pain and suffering. They can see into the depth of human sorrow, injustice, inequity, brokenness and find a way to the light, to break open a ray of hope. These are preachers who often seem to have suffered greatly themselves. In is in transforming their own suffering that they are filled with compassion and mercy for others.

As a former Roman Catholic I was often told that church was a hospital for sinners and that healing grace was conferred through participation in the sacraments. Unitarian Universalism is not a sacramental church but what they like to call a covenantal church. Healing grace is conferred by covenanting with one another to practice our seven principles. So ask a friend, a family member, fellow church goers, “How can I help to facilitate your spiritual growth like I’m asked to do in our third principle which we covenanted together to affirm and promote?” Will they be embarrassed, feel put on the spot, feel awkward because they don’t know what to say? How would you answer if someone asked you?

As a psychotherapist sometimes I ask my clients when it seems appropriate and we have a trusting relationship, “Will you tell me what your interior spiritual life is like?” Surprisingly, I have never had anyone fail to answer the question. Some people are more articulate than others, but I have never had anyone not share something. It is a very intimate question, isn’t it? We are asking the person to share something very personal about themselves, and perhaps they might feel vulnerable, but often it is something they have never been asked before and with an inquiry made with curious interest, people seem not only willing to respond but somehow even complimented to be asked. Try it. See what happens.

Dr. Paul Pearsall, the neuropsychologist, wrote that no therapist should try to help a patient unless the therapist has some sense of how the patient might answer these three questions: why was I born? What is the purpose of my life? What happens to me when I die? I would add a fourth question, “What matters the most to me in my life is___________? And a fifth question, “What would it take for your life to get on a little better track, and is there anything I can do to help you?” I suspect that just asking the question is a big help in and of itself.

16 Reflections of First Principle now available in paperback and on Kindle on Amazon.com

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August, 2014

Fund Raising Opportunity

David G. Markham publications has a fund raising opportunity for churches and other organizations which would like to sell DGMP books. Most of the DGMP books sell for $9.95 on Amazon.com. If you or your organization would like to buy the books in quantities of 5 for $25.00 or 10 for $40.00 you or your organization can make almost $5.00 per book with the 5 book bundle or $6.00 per book with the 10 book bundle. That’s a profit of almost $25.00 for the 5 book bundled, or $60.00 for the 10 book bundle.

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As of August, 2014 the books available are:

2 books in a series on the seven principles of Unitarian Universalism:

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16 Reflections On The First Principle Of Unitarian Universalism: The Inherent Worth and Dignity Of Every Person

   

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Justice, equity, and compassion in human relations: The Second Principle Of Unitarian Universalism

2 books based on critical readings of UU A Way Of Life Book Of The Month selections:

    

       

             God Revised, revised: The conversation continues by Galen            Guengerich

Critical Reading Of Flight Behavior by Barbara Kingsolver: A Unitarian Universalist’s perspective.

UUAWL theme for September: free and responsible search for truth and meaning

The UU A Way Of Life monthly theme for September, 2014, will be "a free and responsible search for truth and meaning." Ideas, comments, essays, stories, poems are being solicited for publication that are relevant to this them. Send them to davidgmarkham@gmail.com

Can we enlarge our moral imaginations to include all living things in our circle of caring?

Chapter 10 in The Green Boat by Mary Pipher is entitled, “The Vast Sea Around Us: Interconnection, Deep Time, and Bliss.” She opens her chapter with this paragraph:

“Our species is consuming, contaminating, or destroying almost everything: rivers, oceans, topsoil, prairies, fisheries, and forests, not to mention cultures. We are not behaving this way because we are cruel but because we are caught up in the Great Acceleration and having a hard time slowing ourselves down and thinking things through. We are living in fragmented ways, disconnected from not only each other and the natural world, but from our pasts and our futures.” p. 180.

Pipher is preaching to the choir when it comes to Unitarian Universalists who are way ahead of their fellow Americans and Earth Planetarians because for several decades now, UUs have had one of their principles, the seventh, “respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part,” as one of its primary values.

On page 185 Pipher tells a wonderful story she got from a book called, Hey, Little Ant by Phillip and Hannah Hoose and Deb Tilley. Apparently as part of the story there is a song about a conversation between an ant and a boy on the playground with all his friends watching. The boy wants to squish the ant just for fun, but the ant sings that he has a home and family too. As Pipher writes, “He sings to show the boy that his life is as precious to his ant family as the boy’s life is to his human family. The song ends with a question for the listener to ponder, ‘Should the ant get squished? Should the ant go free?/ It’s up to the kid, not up to me./ We’ll leave the kid with a raised up shoe./ What do you think that kid should do?’”

Piper writes on that she is telling this story to her grandkids and she asks them what they would do. The nine year old granddaughter, Kate, tells Pipher she will never squish an ant again, and her seven year old grandson, Aidan, promises to let all the ants go free, but her five year old granddaughter, Claire, tells Pipher, “Nonna, I still like to squish ants but I won’t kill any talking ants.” Pipher comments jokingly, “Sigh. She’ll have a growth spurt soon enough.” P. 185

And it seems that when Claire’s pre-frontal cortex develops further and is able to control her amygdale she will indeed outgrow the instinctual urge to kill things different from her own species, but unfortunately, it takes more than just a chronological growth spurt because Americans, especially, are a violent people who love to kill things and, even each other, in far greater numbers than any other first world country or primitive cultures. We might speculate about why American culture is so violent and this fact seems, obviously, to be multi-determined, and the obvious thing is that “old time religion” hasn't helped but rather is used to justify killing as the Old Testament of the Bible gives human beings an injunction to dominate the earth, and as our American Presidents have sent our soldiers off to Vietnam, Persian Gulf, Iraq, and Afghanistan they end their rationalized arguments for the necessity of killing with “And may God bless America.” The ludicrous observation is what kind of God is it that Presidents and Americans are invoking when they justify their ant squishing with “shock and awe” by asking for a blessing from this imagined entity?

Once again it is apparent that if Unitarian Universalists are to live their espoused values, the principles that they covenant to affirm and promote, they will be in a counter cultural position vis a vis their fellow Americans.

Pipher, though a Buddhist, thinks like a Unitarian Universalist when she writes, “If we do not expand our vehicles of mercy and ways of helping each other, we will destroy ourselves. To adaptively cope with our global storm, we need to enlarge our moral imaginations in order to include all living things in our circle of caring.” p.181 If only a President of the United States would call on someone with the moral imagination of Mary Pipher and Unitarian Universalists to bless the country and his policies.

"Justice, equity, and compassion in human relations now available on Amazon.com

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This book of 11 reflections on the second principle of Unitarian Universalism, “to covenant to affirm and promote justice, equity, and compassion” is a gem. This principle rolls easily off the tongue with its triadic meter and yet when deconstructed, unpacked, is probably more than most people would bargain for. Markham argues that the application of this principle is counter cultural and places the devout and committed Unitarian Universalist at odds with the predominant, conventional, American Culture. Not only for Unitarian Universalists, this book is of interest to all those reflecting on The Good Life and what its most basic virtues of justice, equity, and compassion entail. It lends itself to personal reflection as well as to group discussion. It is highly recommended for those who want to dig deeper into the meanings of the most basic and the most fundamental of human values.